Let’s talk about it—insecurity.
I know it all too well. And honestly, if there were a doctorate in it, I might’ve earned one.
So many of us are walking around overwhelmed, anxious, stuck in cycles of depression or fear… and we don’t realize it’s often tied to a faulty belief system. We’re living out lies that have rooted themselves so deeply in our minds that we don’t even recognize them as lies anymore. And if your belief system is broken, your life will reflect that brokenness.
“If you don’t like the way your life is right now… you’ve got to evaluate your belief system.”
Here’s the hard truth: insecurity is usually rooted in not knowing who you are—and not knowing who God is. Most of what we struggle with is tied to identity. If we really knew who we were in Him, so much would shift. But those old beliefs? They become blind spots. They almost shape our personalities, and before we know it, we’re not even sure why we think the way we do.
Sometimes, we need help tracing those lies back to their root.
Sometimes, we need to stop and say:
“Okay, why don’t I feel loved?”
“Why don’t I believe I’m enough?”
“Why don’t I trust God wants to bless me?”
The truth is, it’s not about what you and I deserve—because if we got what we deserved, we’d all be in trouble. It’s about who He is and His goodness toward us. If you ever wonder whether God loves you, look at the cross. That said everything.
Here’s what I know:
- Confidence starts with identity. You’ve got to believe that you are a child of God—not just say it, not just memorize scriptures—but actually believe it in your soul.
- God is your Father. Not a distant figure. A Father who loves you more than you can imagine. If you’re a parent, you get this. There’s nothing you wouldn’t do for your child. So how much more will your heavenly Father do for you?
- Insecurity often comes from trauma. Whether it was something said in childhood, something that happened in your marriage, or something that wounded you—if it’s not founded on the truth of God’s Word, it’s a lie. And lies bring destruction. Truth brings life.
“We can’t handle the promised land until we deal with the giants—and sometimes those giants are mental strongholds.”
God wants more for us than survival mode. He’s trying to take us somewhere. But we have to be spiritually and emotionally ready for where He’s taking us. You can’t walk into a new season carrying a broken mindset.
So how do you shift from insecurity to confidence?
Start here:
- Establish your identity. Get into your Word. Meditate on scriptures about God’s love and your worth. Ask the Holy Spirit to reveal where the lies are hiding.
- Speak truth over your life—even if your feelings haven’t caught up yet.
- Believe that God is guiding and protecting you. You are not alone in this.
- Surround yourself with people who will remind you what God says when you forget.
Let me leave you with this:
“The Lord is on my side. I will not fear.” – Psalm 118:6
Say it out loud. Every time fear creeps in. Every time insecurity whispers. Every time shame tries to take root.
The Lord is on your side. And if He’s on your side… you can’t lose.
I created the Grace & Grit Mindset Reset coaching program because I’ve lived this. And I want to walk with women like you into freedom. If you’re ready to shift your mindset and walk in the confidence God created you to have, email me at Shana@ShanaStrange.net, or you can book your session(s) here: Square Booking Flow
Be blessed.
And remember: you don’t have to stay stuck.
Confidence is calling.
With grace & grit,
Shana
PS……Check out the full length podcast episode of this blog where I go into much more detail about this topic:The Mindset Shift of Confidence Over Insecurity
